10 House Buying Tips when you have mobility issues or a wheelchair — Wheel Chic Home

Aah Spring. Time for Easter Bunnies, newly born lamb, daffodils – and house buying. Spring is a popular time to put your house on the market, probably to do with us coming out of winter hibernation, the nights are lighter and the garden and house are getting a spring clean. House buying is a real […]

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7 Lessons Learned In The World Of Eldercare

My husband and I did everything we could so my mom could live comfortably at home.

by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway

(Originally published on http://www.huffingtonpost.com)

Lovely grandmother

I was ill prepared for my mother’s decline. She lived alone until she was 96 and refused to let me get her home health care help. My husband and I did everything we could so she could live comfortably at home.

And then she fell.


It wasn’t the first time, or the last time, but it was the fall that changed everything. Statistics show one fourth of Americans over 65 fall each year and the results can be devastating and life changing. Women, often with kids and lives of their own, become the primary caregivers and decision-makers when a parent has an accident.

My mom―so strong-minded, stubborn and commanding―could no longer walk on her own or care for herself. After 6 weeks in rehab I brought her back to her home and had to face a new reality: She could no longer live alone. Ambulettes to doctor appointments, a stair lift to get her up to her bedroom, and 24 hour live-in care were her new life.


I promised her long ago that I would never put her in a nursing home, and I nearly quite ran myself into the ground that first year trying to keep my word. But over time, once I got the right caregiving team in place, I was able to deal with the day-to-day running of her life as the aides in her home cared for her needs and kept her safe.


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The Problem of Prolonging Life

As my mother and I wrestled with the idea of turning off my father’s pacemaker, I learned about the moral, medical, and legal obstacles to letting someone die.

By Katy Butler, originally published in The Atlantic

A nurse stands next to an 83-year-old man in a permanently vegetative state. (Kai Pfaffenbach/Reuters)

In the fall of 2006, I found myself in a labyrinth without a map.

For five years, I’d been shuttling between my home in California and my parents’ house in Connecticut as a member of the “rollaboard generation”–the 24 million middle-aged sons and daughters who help care for aging and ailing parents and often, but never often enough, roll their suitcases on and off planes.

Things had been hard for my parents, who were then in their eighties and entering the last chapter of their long and vigorous lives. But I had no idea how hard they were about to get.

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